Embracing Pain // Coffee Series

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I haven’t got a lot to share lately, some days I feel like a washed up conch shell in the Caribbean, dry and bleached from the sun.

We’re having good days. Uriah is growing well. Yesterday, he tried to turn his head back and forth during tummy time; the only thing holding him up was the trach tube. He’s such a darling boy. And Dalton and I are well — it’s a hard thing being separated every week with hours between us. But we find ways to bond and eagerly await being home together soon.

Healing is coming to our family; I’m growing through the pain. I’m becoming okay with the unfairness I struggle with and I’m seeing more beauty than loss these days. I’m especially learning to embrace the hurt of our season and grow through it.

(In)courage has a beautiful post. Follow this link for encouragement with your morning coffee.

Love, blessings, and coffee,

Frannie

Waiting for Spring

Never cut a tree down in the wintertime. Never make a negative decision in the low time. Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods. Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass. The spring will come. Robert H. Schuller

Spring is here and so is hope, excitement, and waiting. While we wait for the leaves to fill the trees and flowers to take up the space of gardens we’re also waiting for our little boy to be ready for home. Uriah is now 4 months old — such an terrifying thing to think I’m the mom of someone who could sprout teeth in the next few months. We expect to be in the NICU till May but in the mean time we wait, practice patience, and trust that the storm will pass in God’s perfect timing.

What are you up to these days? Are there important things you’d like to decide but life is asking you to wait? I would love to hear how you are! 

Love, blessings, and coffee,

Frannie

5 Ways to Deal with Anger in Your Marriage

Real life means we’re going to have conflict in our relationships. How we handle it, or don’t handle it, will determine if our marriage will grow or not. Join me for a coffee break and a quick read on how to deal with anger in your marriage. Follow this link or click on the picture below.

How do you handle grumpy days in your marriage? Did the arguments surprise and/or scare you? What are your strengths in dealing with conflict? Your weakness? Let’s grow in grace and community — this is a safe place to share!

Love, blessings, and coffee,

Frannie

When Life Knocks the Saint Right Out of You // Coffee Series

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There’s a lot of feelings that happen when your life is turned upside down. For me, I’ve definitely become more acquainted with fear, anxiety, and anger from being in the NICU. There’s just something about not being in control of your child’s well-being that knocks the saint right out of you.

And guess what, that’s exactly what I needed.

Far too often I think that I’ve got Christianity down (as if a relationship with Christ is something you can perfect). I get high-minded, proud, and self-righteous. It’s easy to think you’ve got it all together when things are going well.

But I’m not in that place anymore. I’m no longer put together. I feel things that I probably shouldn’t feel — anger when my baby is struggling and a nurse doesn’t come running or hopeless anguish when he struggles to breathe and no one has answers.

I’m learning that being brave and doing what’s right comes down to the basics … am I loving? Am I kind?

It’s the easy, cowardly thing to held a grudge at a nurse. It feels good to be angry with hospital staff when they can’t give the answers I want. It feeds my flesh and old man to be cold and irritable just because I feel like it.

Being brave and loving isn’t easy because it isn’t natural. That’s why I’m not put together. I need Jesus to create a clean heart and renew a right spirit in me. I need Him to give me emanating peace when all I feel is chaos. I need Him to fill me with love when all I feel is irritation.

I get overwhelmed when I think about all my feelings and how terribly I handle them. But thankfully, I have a Savior Who understands and forgives; who redeems and heals.

Have you noticed that stress can knock the saint out of you? How do you handled this? Is there anything I can be praying for for you? Share below — I love to hear from readers!

Love, blessings, and coffee,
Frannie

Cherishing the Small Moments of your Mommyhood

Embracing the Little Moments of Motherhood @ AuthenticVirtue.com

It’s been a long journey, our time in the NICU. But there is more to this season than fear and unknowns and living away from home. There’s a lot more.

Halfway through our stay I realized that this is mommyhood for me. This is my story. I can let the difficulties of our situation steal the joy of being Uriah’s mother or I can embrace the beautiful moments his life is giving me. I can put being a mom on hold until I get home or I can enjoy these early days to their fullest.

I choose to cherish the small moments of being a mommy. (Even a mommy in the NICU).

Those small smiles Uriah makes during his naps … those are precious. The coffee breaks I get with a sugar cookie or a stroll outside in the garden … those are refreshing. Watching Uriah hold his head up and meet milestones … that is humbling. Playing with Uriah during his bath … that is being a mommy. (It’s an awful lot of fun, too).

It doesn’t matter that I’m rocking him to sleep or giving him a bath in a busy hospital room. What matters is that I am his mommy and this is my role.

And I’m cherishing it.

What little things are you cherishing lately? What is your season of life challenging you to embrace? Share below in a comment — I love to hear from my readers. 

Love, blessings, and coffee,

Frannie 

Embracing Motherhood @ AuthenticVirtue.com