Why I Love the Roloff’s Podcast

I LOVE BEHIND THE SCENES PODCAST.

Every Tuesday Audrey and Jeremy Roloff release a podcast episode and I’m always ready to tune in, coffee in hand. It took me a while to jump on board with the whole podcast fanfare but this one is definitely a favorite for this year.

I don’t know about you but I tend to look at those with successful ministries, Instagrams, and published books and murmur and sigh … if only I had more talent if only I had a followingif only I had connections

(Pathetic, right?) 😉

Seeing other’s live their dreams and produce content inspires me but it also scares me; insecurity and fear whisper menacingly,

” … they’re meant to minister because they obviously have something you don’t. You’ll never be able to minister like them so why try?”

And that’s why I love the Roloff’s podcast — they share real life and all the messy bits. Behind the laptop screen, Instagram numbers, and published books are two people who are doing the hard work. They don’t have everything figured out; they have messy schedules, unfinished projects, arguments, roses and thorns in their everyday life.

The episodes are super practical which is perfect for me. So far, they’ve talked about forming family rhythms and habits, working with your spouse, entrepreneurial projects, and knowing your personality and using it for God’s glory. (Since I dream of working alongside D one day, I find so much of it inspiring!)

Since I consider motherhood, marriage, and blogging part of my calling and ministry, I love hearing from others about what has and hasn’t worked for them; so far, I haven’t listened to an episode that didn’t leave me some nugget of wisdom to cling to. (I also laugh a lot since they’re so easy to relate too!)

What’s some of your favorites this year? Do you have any favorite podcasts? Leave me a comment below and I’ll try to check it out!

Happy listening!

Frannie

Doing Life for the Glory of God

There are a million successful blogs so why would anyone want to hear from me? 

It’s a question I’ve been pondering for a long time — an insecurity hidden deep in my heart keeping me from productivity and writing. See, I love to write and I love connecting with people. Part of my ministry as a stay-at-home wife and mom is that I’m blessed with time — time to share, invite, write, and connect with other women and moms. 

But how do I compete? How do I beat the algorithms, master the SEOs, and write regularly enough that I get noticed but not so much that I burn out and need a 3 month hiatus? 

I don’t. At least, that’s not what I’m called to do. 

I’m called to be loving wife and attentive mommy; I’m called to connect with people and be hospitable. I’m called to minister by being mommy, wife, and friend — not by being the best on Instagram or Pinterest. 

I’m called to do life “heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.” I’m called to obey “Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.”

Whatever I do — change diapers, wash dishes, host guests, or write words — all needs to be for the glory of God. No cares need to be given on the reception. I mean, I love to write so why not write? And if someone notices then great because I also love to help and inspire too. And if I never make an income blogging or grow my following then that’s great too.

Because there’s fulfillment in doing what you love for the glory of God and leaving the results to Him. There’s joy in doing a job well done because you’re called to do so — more joy than competition can ever bring. 

So, here’s to do life for the glory of God. Cheers to all the women who are choosing to focus on their current ministry for God’s glory, not for the likes, the pins, or the shares — tell me how you do it so I can learn from you! 

Love, blessings, and coffee, 

Frannie

5 of my Favorite Instagram Accounts

Right now, I’ve got five favorite Instagram accounts that I look forward to seeing every morning during my coffee time. Somewhere in between Uriah waking up and quiet time with my Lord, I take time to catch up with these lovely people and am never disappointed. 

Kristy Wicks 

Kristy’s account is a daily joy to me. It’s all about home, decor, and family. Her style is slightly upscale from my shabby-chic cottage theme but I love her generous spirit and happy, contentment that splashes through her gorgeous site. 

That Mama Hen

Ah, me. Angel is a sweet friend of mine who makes my heart so happy every time she posts. Her work centers around motherhood but incorporates a lot of themes from conquering ovarian cancer, Christian life, and adorable farm-styled decor. 

The Bethkes

Alyssa and Jeff Bethke really shine in inspiring and encouraging families to look to Jesus and follow Him. I really love their fun, candid pictures and their deep, faith-rooted conversations they have in their posts and comments. I’ve just started listening to their podcast if that tells you how much I care for their work. 

Beating 50% (Audrey + Jeremy Roloff)

I’m pretty much a fan of all of Audrey’s accounts but I’m an even bigger fan of her faith and effort to encourage women to remember the always more that is available to them in Christ. They also have an amazing heart for marriages which I love since that is my number one passion! 

Anna Rendell 

So, Anna’s work is basically my favorite because it is honest, funny, and totally down-to-earth when it comes to motherhood. My favorite part of the week is when she shares #RealMomConfessions which tend to round-up several women who are happy to share their mishaps and find they’re not alone. She just published a new devotional and I can’t wait to get my hands on it one day. 

Do you ever stumble across someone and just know that they are speaking life into your world? I love social media because it connects us to tribes we ordinarily would never come across — people who bring us joy, inspiration, and encouragement. Who do you follow? Drop their name below and I’ll visit them! And check out my Instagram for daily doses of cuteness. 😉

Love, blessings, and coffee, 

Frannie

Making Sense of our Medically-Complex Adventure

Every once in a while I get to see the why’s behind our story. Last week, Uriah had a difficult 4 days following an intense and lengthy bronchoscopy. What was supposed to be same-day surgery became a 3 day PICU admission, a manual bagging, low SATS, three trach plugs, steroids for inflammation, and exhaustive hours spent watching my amazing active boy sleep restlessly and his SATS dance higher than I like.

He’s still recovering from his intense procedure but he is recovering and that is a blessing.

But, as a parent watching her child struggle, there are moments when I wonder why. Why us? Why does Uriah have to struggle? Why the difficulties? Why, why, why?

Tonight, as I cried my little cry, I looked at the stars and saw my favorite constellation … Orion. Long ago, when I was a teen and life felt so big, God so mysterious, and my purpose meaningless I made a pact that whenever I saw Orion I would choose to remember that the same God Who created those stars and has kept them in their place for centuries is the same God Who made and loves me.

And some 10 + years later those same stars greeted me on a night when I wondered why. Why does my son have to work so hard for everything? Why does a simple procedure have to become a threatening, code blue situation? How in the world do normal families function … what is it like to not have to worry about ventilator heaters, trach plugs, suctioning, oxygen SATS, tube feeds, and milestones? Why, why, why?

But then I remembered Uriah’s strength. I remembered his smiles, the silly toothy grins he gives us. My mind wandered over his latest milestone accomplishments — tummy crawling, scooting, saying Momma and Dadda, pursing his lips to whistle, a Swallow Study that showed no primary aspiration, sitting with almost no assistance. These are amazing things for a little boy like Uriah; he is literally a crawling, talking, smiling, scooting, happy miracle and every day, every accomplishment, makes those hard times worthwhile.

Then, there are the random emails I get from young mothers going through PPROM, miscarriages, and extreme fear in their pregnancies. These are the emails thanking me for reminding their authors that God is good, caring, and there in their troubles. These are the emails that make sense of my misdiagnosed miscarriage and all the other horrible aspects of my pregnancy.

And after a few moments reflecting on all this I am reminded, once again, that all life makes sense if I am thankful. And I have SO much to be glad for! For an amazing son who loves me, loves his Daddy, and loves life. For a husband who loves his family with everything in him. For milestones that doctors said would never come. For a home to keep and make memories in.

Though I still wish I could snap my fingers and help Uriah be completely healthy and free from support I am so thankful for where we are at. To be honest, I probably wouldn’t change a thing  because this life we are living is worth every hardship. I know those sentences conflict with each other but it is true … our life would never be this special, this unique, and this bonding if I could change it.

How do you make sense of the hard things in your life? Are there any special ways God reveals Himself in the mess?

 

Frannie

Straight from the Heart: What Got Me Through January

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Hello sweet friends,

It’s been a while since I last wrote anything that is truly productive. That just isn’t my stage in life right now. Instead of inspiring lists, print-ables, or blog posts helpful in any sense I am craving simplicity. I cannot really offer genuine advice in the form of a blog post; instead, I’m diving deep into the hygge feeling of healing and recovering. Authentic Virtue might one day be a source of written encouragement but for now it needs to be a place of simple welcome, peace, and rest.

There is a level of PTSD that comes with 3 months of bed bound living in a hospital and then 7 months away from home in a NICU environment.  There is stress that comes with g-tube changes, watching over ventilator settings, and colds that turn into pneumonia that turn into hospital admissions.

I’m not complaining. I love my life. I love the privilege of learning how to sanitize trachs and blend foods; I love it because it means I have my son and he is doing so well and thriving perfectly. So many of my other NICU moms do not get that privilege and their loss has shown me how much I have to be grateful for.

I’m doing what I need to do … removing the self-made pressure I assigned myself for this blog. Hello rest, good bye stress. I know you won’t mind, sweet friends. We’ve always been a community of encouragement.

Do you want to know what helped me through January? What little blessings God sent my during the cold winter month?

Little blessing #1:

My husband. For my birthday Dalton gifted me with every Sunday of January being a “responsibility free” day.  We already do a great job helping each other care for Uriah. But this gift was a huge blessing — I was able to do whatever I liked over the last several Sundays including extra naps, trips to the library, and simply being “let off the hook” for the normal responsibilities that are mine those days.

By the way, have I told you how amazing Dalton is?

Little blessing #2:

This big boy has been blessing my socks off. Between his increasing smiles, ability to sit in his Bumbo unassisted, his growing love for tickles and mommy play, His words momma and dadda, and his newfound love for traveling, I am loving these days. Oh, the 6 teeth smile also wins my heart every time too.

Little Blessing #3:

Coffee … coffee … coffee. I never seem to finish my cup so there’s no guilt about making a new one! (Hides blushing face in palms!)

Little Blessing #4:

I don’t browse blogs or Pinterest like I used to but these favorites continue to fill my heart with encouragement and joy.

Grace Lee Cottage

Shy County Gal 

Button Willow Chronicles

Whatever Is Lovely

Wiishu

I’ve also been loving my Hygge Facebook group, getting back-on-track with our budget and my house cleaning projects, lots of candles, and a new Bible study my wonderful friend Amy and I are doing together.

What has been bringing you rest and refreshment this winter? I would love to know! <3 Leave me a comment if you can!

Love, blessings, and coffee,

Frannie