Peace Is a Gift God Wants to Give Your Home

It’s been such a long time since my thoughts found there way to this beloved space. Life, life has kept me busy and when I’m not busy I’m tired. (Mom life, am I right?)

At the moment I’m sitting beneath our covered porch listening to the pounding spring rain and thunder. I’ve got a bathrobe, freshly showered hair, and iced coffee on the scene while my men sleep soundly inside.

Life is so good. Marriage is so good. Motherhood is so good. God is so good.

But good doesn’t mean easy.

This season of life has me learning. Worry tends to bog me down these days; fear, what-ifs, and unknowns can change my moods from naturally cheerful to fretful and irritable.

What if I’m not feeding Uriah well enough (since we’re still using formula as he struggles to tolerate blended meals)? What if I’m not loving him enough? What if he needs more surgical repair and I’m not advocating hard enough? What if he gets sick again?

I’ve worn my emotions and mind to a thread wondering if I’m doing enough.

And like God often does, He led me to some wisdom exactly when I was ready for it. I was on the verge of breaking down into an unusual fit of tears and found a book with words that spoke amazing life and peace into my hurting soul:

When we release our children into the Father’s hands and acknowledge that He is in control of their lives and ours, both we and our children will have greater peace. -Stormie Omartian

Ah, isn’t that good? Sweet friend, wherever you are in life I hope you can pursue trusting God’s care and letting go of worry. Whether you are a new mom, a special needs mom, or an older mom with a way-ward child, this peace-filled trust is meant for you and your children.

I know trust isn’t easy. We like to control life (at least I do). I like being in charge of my little kingdom, I crave responsibility.

But I can’t control health. I can’t control insurnace approvals. I can’t even control milestones.

But I can trust that God is in control and I can enjoy the amazing peace filling my heart when I do.

The sweet thing is that peace is a gift God wants to give your family. Your Creator God longs to fill your home with peace that passes all understanding. A calm, restful attitude doesn’t have to come forced, wrestled into submission. It’s a gift, free to His people who choose to simply rest in God’s great love and power.

Here’s to hoping my worry-filled days can point you in a better direction. Here’s to wishing you may know the “blessed assurance” that Jesus will meet your needs.

With love, blessings, and coffee,

Frannie

Making Sense of our Medically-Complex Adventure

Every once in a while I get to see the why’s behind our story. Last week, Uriah had a difficult 4 days following an intense and lengthy bronchoscopy. What was supposed to be same-day surgery became a 3 day PICU admission, a manual bagging, low SATS, three trach plugs, steroids for inflammation, and exhaustive hours spent watching my amazing active boy sleep restlessly and his SATS dance higher than I like.

He’s still recovering from his intense procedure but he is recovering and that is a blessing.

But, as a parent watching her child struggle, there are moments when I wonder why. Why us? Why does Uriah have to struggle? Why the difficulties? Why, why, why?

Tonight, as I cried my little cry, I looked at the stars and saw my favorite constellation … Orion. Long ago, when I was a teen and life felt so big, God so mysterious, and my purpose meaningless I made a pact that whenever I saw Orion I would choose to remember that the same God Who created those stars and has kept them in their place for centuries is the same God Who made and loves me.

And some 10 + years later those same stars greeted me on a night when I wondered why. Why does my son have to work so hard for everything? Why does a simple procedure have to become a threatening, code blue situation? How in the world do normal families function … what is it like to not have to worry about ventilator heaters, trach plugs, suctioning, oxygen SATS, tube feeds, and milestones? Why, why, why?

But then I remembered Uriah’s strength. I remembered his smiles, the silly toothy grins he gives us. My mind wandered over his latest milestone accomplishments — tummy crawling, scooting, saying Momma and Dadda, pursing his lips to whistle, a Swallow Study that showed no primary aspiration, sitting with almost no assistance. These are amazing things for a little boy like Uriah; he is literally a crawling, talking, smiling, scooting, happy miracle and every day, every accomplishment, makes those hard times worthwhile.

Then, there are the random emails I get from young mothers going through PPROM, miscarriages, and extreme fear in their pregnancies. These are the emails thanking me for reminding their authors that God is good, caring, and there in their troubles. These are the emails that make sense of my misdiagnosed miscarriage and all the other horrible aspects of my pregnancy.

And after a few moments reflecting on all this I am reminded, once again, that all life makes sense if I am thankful. And I have SO much to be glad for! For an amazing son who loves me, loves his Daddy, and loves life. For a husband who loves his family with everything in him. For milestones that doctors said would never come. For a home to keep and make memories in.

Though I still wish I could snap my fingers and help Uriah be completely healthy and free from support I am so thankful for where we are at. To be honest, I probably wouldn’t change a thing  because this life we are living is worth every hardship. I know those sentences conflict with each other but it is true … our life would never be this special, this unique, and this bonding if I could change it.

How do you make sense of the hard things in your life? Are there any special ways God reveals Himself in the mess?

 

Frannie

3 Tips on Taking Back Your Morning

Hello friendlies,

Some of my favorite things include early, slow mornings, writing the day’s tasks and schedule in a good planner, fresh coffee, and inspiring music. If I’m not careful, mom life leads to rushed mornings, skipped quiet times with the Lord, days that run me instead of my running my day, and too much coffee.

Here’s a few useful tools which have been wonderful in bringing some organization and make the mornings work for me:

Little Tip #1:

Buy a good planner. Right now I am using a Lesson Planner and LOVE it! A sweet friend sent this to me during Uriah’s NICU stay; I love how large each day is — there are so many boxes to write the day’s plans and aspirations in!

Little Tip #2:

Having a hard time fitting prayer time into your day? Me too … one tip I’ve really enjoyed learning from my Bible study is to talk with my Lord while I drink my cup of coffee. So simple, right? But I crave simple these days!

I can really tell the difference in my days when I take the time to talk with my Lord. The beauty of it is that it reminds me of God’s amazing friendship like love; He wants us to talk to Him! And He understands mommyhood, He understands caregivers.

Little Tip #3:

This isn’t really a tip unless you are a musical loving soul like me and are looking for a good recommendation. 😉 I am loving The Greatest Showman’s soundtrack. I feel like everyone is loving this story and I know why! (Warning, there are some curse words so, if that is something you are sensitive to, avoid the song The Other Side). My personal favorites are A Million Dreams and From Now On. Have you seen The Greatest Showman? What did you think?

I can almost always be found doing one of these tips throughout the day (or all at once); hence the coffee-breathed belting of A Million Dreams while I scribble over my planner. Simple joys that bring a little happiness into the day.

What are your tips for scheduling, connecting with the Lord, or a creative outlet? Share below in a comment … I love hearing from you!

Love, blessings, and coffee,

Frannie

Simple, Easy Ideas for Valentine’s Day for the Whole Family

“You mean more to me than anyone else in the whole wide world.”

– Peter Pan

This Valentine’s Day will be Uriah’s first at home! His first Valentines took place in the NICU — so thankful we are home and able to celebrate the holidays together (even though we do miss our nurses!).

My mom couldn’t be beat when it came to celebrating the holidays and Valentine’s Day was always made special for us children. Gift baskets would be filled with red and pink treats … little things like body soap, candies, candles, or notepads. She really has a gift for making holidays special! <3

This year, we’ll be celebrating Valentine’s Day together and I want to make it a special one for both Uriah and Dalton, my true Valentine!

Since there’s no danger of either reading this post I’ll let you in on the plan! (Real life readers … please keep my secret!) 😉

For Dalton, I will make a little gift basket with 5 coupons for a 1 hour massage by yours truly! (True love since I really stink at giving massages!). I’ll also tuck a pint of his favorite Halo Icecream, a kombucha drink, and a bar of Aldi dark chocolate. His favorites!

For Uriah, I’ll keep it simple with a little bag filled with a new teether, lavender baby lotion (since we’re out 😉 ), and a balloon tied to the side.

Simple yet meaningful gifts that won’t break the budget and will make the holiday special. What do you do for Valentine’s Day? Do you reserve gift giving for only your significant other or do you spread the love to the whole family?

Love, blessings, and a happy Valentine’s Day to you!

Frannie

Springtime Wishes

“Your time has come, now hasten little snowflakes. To vanish quite away; The spring-tide hours are sounding gentle warnings, forbidding you to stay.” — M.E. Hathaway

Just a little day dreaming about spring … soon the sunshine will last a little longer and the air won’t be as frosty. Soon there will be flower buds and bees. Soon we won’t have to bundle in a thousand coats to go out for a walk. Soon spring will be back and I will be welcoming it. <3

What are you looking forward to?

Love, blessings, and coffee,

Frannie

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