Peace Is a Gift God Wants to Give Your Home

It’s been such a long time since my thoughts found there way to this beloved space. Life, life has kept me busy and when I’m not busy I’m tired. (Mom life, am I right?)

At the moment I’m sitting beneath our covered porch listening to the pounding spring rain and thunder. I’ve got a bathrobe, freshly showered hair, and iced coffee on the scene while my men sleep soundly inside.

Life is so good. Marriage is so good. Motherhood is so good. God is so good.

But good doesn’t mean easy.

This season of life has me learning. Worry tends to bog me down these days; fear, what-ifs, and unknowns can change my moods from naturally cheerful to fretful and irritable.

What if I’m not feeding Uriah well enough (since we’re still using formula as he struggles to tolerate blended meals)? What if I’m not loving him enough? What if he needs more surgical repair and I’m not advocating hard enough? What if he gets sick again?

I’ve worn my emotions and mind to a thread wondering if I’m doing enough.

And like God often does, He led me to some wisdom exactly when I was ready for it. I was on the verge of breaking down into an unusual fit of tears and found a book with words that spoke amazing life and peace into my hurting soul:

When we release our children into the Father’s hands and acknowledge that He is in control of their lives and ours, both we and our children will have greater peace. -Stormie Omartian

Ah, isn’t that good? Sweet friend, wherever you are in life I hope you can pursue trusting God’s care and letting go of worry. Whether you are a new mom, a special needs mom, or an older mom with a way-ward child, this peace-filled trust is meant for you and your children.

I know trust isn’t easy. We like to control life (at least I do). I like being in charge of my little kingdom, I crave responsibility.

But I can’t control health. I can’t control insurnace approvals. I can’t even control milestones.

But I can trust that God is in control and I can enjoy the amazing peace filling my heart when I do.

The sweet thing is that peace is a gift God wants to give your family. Your Creator God longs to fill your home with peace that passes all understanding. A calm, restful attitude doesn’t have to come forced, wrestled into submission. It’s a gift, free to His people who choose to simply rest in God’s great love and power.

Here’s to hoping my worry-filled days can point you in a better direction. Here’s to wishing you may know the “blessed assurance” that Jesus will meet your needs.

With love, blessings, and coffee,

Frannie

He Won’t Be Little Forever

Just a snapshot of my little hot mess. I promise, he didn’t fall off the ottoman during this process. πŸ˜€

Dear mom of young kids,

I know, I know. One more blog post addressed to you, the coffee-driven, alone-time-missing, mass. You who are in the middle of post-Christmas cleanup and credit card statements out the wazoo. Yes, hello, you.

I’m with you. I haven’t a dozen of young children but I do have one. A precious, darling one year old. Sometimes I think he counts for at least two since he currently requires specials cares which involve me dragging around his ventilator, priming his feeding pump, and eye-balling the tiny fists which LOVE to pull out his trach because it is oh, so, fun to make mom get her cardio in. πŸ˜‰

But really, I understand. Moms are tired. We’re worn down. Even on the amazing, good, organized, low-key days we’ve still got a million things weighing on our mommy brains. It’s exhausting, I get it.

I mean, I’m currently speed writing this. I’m still in my nightgown and it’s 2 p.m. I’m in the middle of trying to keep Uriah entertained while I get the house organized and sanitized since Christmas and a 4 day pneumonia-related hospital admission has me playing catch up.

But there is more to this momhood than busyness, and diapers, and weariness.

Just this afternoon I paused my bleaching and washing to prepare Uriah’s lunchtime meal. When I came close he lifted his darling, chubby arms. Hold me, Mommy. I picked him up and gently laid his tummy against my chest and swayed that little boy who loves to practice tummy time in my arms.

And in those 3 minutes I caught a vision of what might be in the next 30 years …

I imagined laying my head on my 31 year old son’s shoulder; we’re dancing at his wedding. It’s a special day. My son, my Uriah, is grown, tall, and beginning his own life. And there I am nearly 60 years old. I’m probably shorter and fatter than ever but my son doesn’t see that. All he sees is his momma. The woman who loved him.

In the 3 minutes it took to pick up my baby, dance with him on my chest, and let my shoulder get soaked through with snot, I saw what could be.Β 

One day, our children will be grown. One day, we won’t have littles little enough to embrace on our shoulders. They’ll be bigger, independent, and moving away from the homes we desperately keep for them.Β 

Dear, tired, worn, frazzled momma. Cherish these moments with me. Cherish the little person you’ve been given because, in the blink of an eye, they will be grown and gone. We’ll never be able to hold them to our shoulders like we can now. I know it’s hard to slow down. I know you have a million-and-one things on your to-do list.

But while you strive to do your best keeping up with life, rememeber to appreciate and enjoy the people in it. <3

Love, blessings, and coffee,

Frannie

Lovely Motherhood Quote

Motherhood really is a privilege. Enjoy this wise, in-depth quote from one of my favorite authors, Elizabeth Prentiss, and her book Stepping Heavenward. (I feel a special kinship, kindred spirit with the key character Katy).

And enjoy this free 8.5 x 11 inch printable at this Dropbox link.Β 

Love, blessings, and coffee,

Frannie

Free Printables for Private Home Nursing Binders

Having medically complex kiddos is an amazing, unique responsibility that has ordinary parents thinking about and doing un-ordinary things. One of those unique aspects is private, home nursing.

Good, bad, or indifferent, home nursing is tricky business.Β I created these free Nursing Communication Book labels to help families communicate and interact better with the nurses working in their home. Each file has nine 8.5 x 11 inch pages that you can print, three-hole punch, and place in a binder. Then, get creative by making your binder unique to your family by writing or typing your family’s specific information.

 

Having home nursing can be a huge blessing but it can also be a huge burden. I believe having a Nursing Communication Book is a simple, easy way to keep everyone on the same page. Have a single spot for house rules, emergency plans, and contact information will eliminate confusion and excuses for irresponsible behavior.

Want your relationship with your nursing staff to be excellent? I highly recommend reading Charrisse Montgomery’s book Home Care CEO. I read this quick, easy-to-read book while we were still in the NICU and got so many excellent ideas for managing the medical side of my son’s home care.

For the blue file click on this Dropbox link and download it. For the purple file follow this Dropbox link. πŸ™‚ Please comment below if you have any questions. I’m sorry I cannot currently write the specifics behind each label; it would be impossible to write a welcome page or a list of house rules that each family could use. But hopefully, these simple labels will inspire you and bring you one step closer to a respectful, productive relationship with the nursing staff working in your home.

This is an example of my notebook. πŸ™‚ (Click on the pictures for a larger view).

With love, blessings, and coffee,

Frannie

Our Family’s Fall Time Bucket List

Fall is finally approaching our corner of the Midwest and we are already enjoying every sunny yet perfectly chilled day, changing leaves, and blossoming golden rod. Now that I don’t break into a soggy, soaking sweat each time I step outside, Uriah and I have been enjoying one mile walks to our down town center. We’ve had the best of times.

As wonderful as fall is we’re enjoying an even greater blessing, Uriah’s good health. With no sickness hanging around I’m planning a few fun fall-themed activities. After all, this will be the first fall he is well enough to enjoy! πŸ™‚

With a little bit of planning I think we can conquer the bucket list I made above. Since traveling with Uriah currently means traveling with several pieces of equipment and requires two drivers at all times I want to keep things simple to avoid burnout and frustration. I’ll also be following this cute tutorial for the hand print banner!Β 

Of course, Uriah won’t be able to do all these things; he’s not old enough or ready to drink hot chocolate. But he can watch Momma mix the drinks up, play with marshmallows, and smell the spices that are required for all the deliciousness. And playing in a creek merely means dipping his toes into the running water since full swimming is a little out of his league. But that’s the beauty of this list; it is adaptable and flexible to your own special family and needs.

Follow this Dropbox link and download your own adorable Fall Favorite (free!) printable. πŸ™‚

With love, blessings, and coffee,

Frannie