Don’t Dig Up in Doubt What You Planted in Faith: Coffee Series

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In life we’re given the choice to simply trust and obey or grow faithless and fearful.

In our current situation, I’m constantly challenged by fear. Every belly cramp, sign of blood, or internet search weakens my faith and I begin to dig up in doubt what I had planted in faith.

Last week was no different. My Beloved came home, exhausted from the previous night’s trip to the emergency room, the extra work he had done over the weekend, and being out-of-town. My normally calm and collected Dalton was stressed and worn out. And instead of  helping ease his weary heart I made it heavier through my nervous, worry-edged tone.

Even though we had just been to the doctor who informed us that baby was well, growing and the spotting/bleeding appeared to be low-risk, every hour of the day seemed grow my anxiety and fear. It’s like I need to be jellied up and sitting next to an ultrasound every moment of the day for me to have any peace and rest.

Friends, learn with me. Don’t dig up in doubt what you’ve planted in faith.

Life is full of unknowns.

Thankfully, we can know that God is good and kind and exceedingly present in our time of need. He is faithful to His children, their needs, and He hears their pleas.

Dalton reminded me that besides our false alarm miscarriage, our pregnancy has really been quite problem-free. Yes, I spot but so do a thousand other women who have healthy babies.

So, here’s to Fridays and learning to live life in faith. Here’s to less worry and more trusting and obeying.

What are you learning to let go and trust in? have you any advice or insight in how to conquer fear and anxiety? Let’s grow together and share our hearts! 

Love, blessings, and coffee,

Frannie

 

Resting in Jesus Means Letting Him Refine Us // Coffee Series

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Ah … it’s a good day at the Duncan house. Coffee is poured, candles are lit and, best thing of all, my heart is finding a place to rest.

You’ve all been such gems listening to my worries and sending encouragement my way. Thank you. Thank you for being the Body of Christ and being such a good friends.

We went to our first ultrasound and saw our little one, all seven weeks and four days growth of him. We couldn’t hear the heartbeat but our midwife felt confident that baby’s positioning and size were marks of a healthy, growing baby.

Isn’t God good?

The funny thing was that I left the clinic still worried. It’s like my heart had become addicted to worrying because worry is the only thing I can control.

Dalton challenged me to do something different.

He challenged me to trust in God. To place my trust in His great goodness and love and power. He challenged me to rest in God’s care, let go of worry, and enjoy this time.

You know what? He’s right. He’s 100%, perfectly, wonderfully right. Giving up worry and control isn’t easy for me — I like holding the reins on my life. But I’m starting to suspect that the 2+ years of waiting to conceive and now disconcerting spotting aren’t accidents.

God is placing me in circumstances I wish I could control but can’t. As one friend said, “God has a way of allowing or giving us exactly what we need in our life to help refine us.” I think it’s time I let Him.

So, first step? I’m going to start celebrating Baby Duncan like he/she will be arriving December 28th instead of thinking of the worse possibilities. I’m going to start literally preparing for my little one. I’m going to start giving thanks for baby’s future instead of dreading what I fear is his/her present.

I’m going to have a friend over for coffee and cinnamon rolls and we’re going to laugh and celebrate our good God.

How are you going to start trusting God today?

Love, blessings and coffee,

Frannie

You’re Not Called to be Superwoman // Coffee Series

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It’s a curse, wanting to do and be everything. Whether it’s the world telling you you need to do more or your own personal chase for perfection, we often feel that to be successful, thriving people we need to be superwomen.

It’s exhausting, overwhelming, and false.

I have my own personal issues with wanting to do and be everything. I want to be the perfect wife and in my mind that means dinner must be on time, the house cleaned daily, bills balanced and paid, etc. I need to do in order to be.  

The funny thing is that my husband rates the perfect wife differently. Yes, he loves having dinner warm and ready and he enjoys coming to a home clean, fresh and calm.

But he doesn’t think my getting things done is what makes me his perfect wife.

It’s when I greet him at the door with a smile, pay attention to his jokes, and take time to laugh with him. He says I’m the perfect wife because he says I’m his best friend. And I’m his best friend because I take time for him, choose him, and pursue him. He’ll wear the dirty pants I forgot to wash, and do it with an understanding smile and wink. It’s when I get angry and pout over unwashed laundry and put distance between us that he struggles.

You see, it’s all about abiding instead of doing.

Jesus Christ loved to emphasize that. Yes, we need to do good works. Yes, our lives should declare our relationship with Christ through good fruit.

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But we don’t do that by checking off to-do lists and endeavoring to be women we’re not. We do that by abiding, resting, acknowledging that there is no good in us and anything we can do good is a gift form our good Father. It’s evidence of Him in us.

I know abiding can be hard. That’s why we need each other — let’s pray, encourage, and lift each other up as we journey together at being better at abiding. With Christ we are more than conquerors … of perfectionism and the nagging fear that we’ll never be good enough. 

With love, blessings, and coffee,

Frannie

Jesus Wants You to Look Up // Coffee Series

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Hey, sweet reader.

Yes, you. You may be feeling a little crazy today, a little overwhelmed, a little busy or a little discouraged.

I know. I’ve been there before. I’ve been in the dark place that looking inwardly brings. Many of us tend to peek at our imperfect parts for far too long. We get lost in the the fact that we’re still lacking, still angry, still sinning, still fearful, still full of pride.

I get it. I really do.

But there’s no sunshine in the dungeon. Friend, look up. Lift your eyes to Jesus — the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.

He counted the cost of the cross and endured its pain and shame. He did that so we could know our Heavenly Father and live in His freedom. Friend, we’re free from continual condemnation and free from the never ending pursuit of self and sin.

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Live in the sunshine and breathe in the finished work of Jesus Christ in your life. After all, He is all that we need.

But of him are ye in Christ Jesus, who of God is made unto us wisdom, and righteousness, and sanctification, and redemption 

With love, blessings and coffee,

Frannie

Encouragement from all Sources // Coffee Series

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I recently stumbled on something that deeply impacted my worldview.

God speaks (to me) through people.

I know, I know. Not very original. But when I take the time to consider this I’m rattled to the very core. Suddenly, the love of God is more real and more tangible than ever.

One of my favorites, Lux et Amor, shared something which pulled the strings of my heart. I’ve known for years that God speaks His truth and love to me through nature. Waterfalls, fields and light-filled, leafy trees remind me constantly of His greatness, care and interest.

But what if real people speaking real conversations to me are another way God speaks into our lives?

What if my husband’s words, “You are beautiful, Frannie” and “You make me so happy to come home” are not just revealing the heart of my Beloved but the heart of my Heavenly Groom?

Perhaps friend’s phrases are more than just phrases. What if the “I appreciate you” and “I am blessed to have you here” and “You have a lot to offer, Frannie” are more than sincere words from kindred spirits? What if they’re bits of truth from my greatest Friend’s heart?

What if?

What if God, with all His power and ability and care, actually uses people to speak into our lives — not just words of direction or guidance but words of love, care and encouragement?

Well, things suddenly change. Suddenly, wonderfully, I am reminded tangibly of my Maker’s love and interest. Quite quickly I am shown that His kindnesses and friendship isn’t as hard to find as I thought.

Suddenly, I am surrounded by more than good people — I’m surrounded by a God Who is ever present and ever loving.

Isn’t that beautiful?

What do you think? Do you believe God speaks tiny bits of beauty into your life through others? Have you heard something you know are His truths spoken from a friend?

With love, blessings and coffee,

Frannie