Dealing with Fear in Your First Trimester of Pregnancy

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I wrote this on a rainy Sunday afternoon when my heart was overflowing with so many things. Some of the things were good like hope, expectation, good music and eyes lifted to the Lord. Other things were bad and revolved around fear, fear, fear and more fear.

I’ve always been open on this blog. Being authentic is part of being a piece of the body of Christ. I learn when I’m open and we all grow when we walk through life’s waves together. So I wrote this knowing I was in a safe place and that you’d let this new mommy share her concerns — it’s a safe place for all of us.

I’m six glorious weeks and six days deep into pregnancy. I’ve experienced mood swings, tender body parts, brief moments of nausea, and spotting.

Which is why I’ve been scared. I’ve read and reread articles which say spotting within the first trimester is nothing to be overly concerned with. I’ve been told it’s normal. But when you waited two plus years to conceive spotting seems to be a momentous occasion where I’m tempted to be afraid.

The day I wrote this I googled the line, “Verses for when you feel you have no faith.” I didn’t find anything worth reading. I felt like crying all over again but felt God calling me to open His Word. Phrases came pouring out from David’s heart.

“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore will not we fear, though earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea;” Psalms 46:1,2

Though I am spotting and my mind runs to worst case scenarios and I want to cry myself into the fetal position … God is my refuge, a very present help in trouble.

“Have mercy upon me, O God, according to thy loving-kindness: according to the multitude of thy tender mercies …” Psalms 51:1

Even though I felt like I’m drowning in fear and know it’s no way for a Christian to behave … have mercy on me, Jesus, according to your loving-kindness and tender mercies.

“Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. Cast me not away from Thy presence; and take not Thy Holy Spirit from me. Restore unto me the joy of my salvation and uphold me with Thy free spirit.” Psalms 51:9-12

Oh, Lord, my heart has been full of dark things when it should be trusting and rejoicing in you. Instead of living in your love and freedom I’m afraid of losing something precious to me. Create in me a clean heart and renew my spirit so I can have joy in my salvation again. Thank You that no matter what life sends our way we have a guarantee that Your Holy Spirit and Loving Person will never leave us.

These are the verses I needed two days ago because these verses apply to real life for the 2016, twenty-six year-old, first time mommies who wonder at every spot and cramp.

Life is scary whether you’re a young wife waiting to conceive, going through cancer treatments, dealing with a church split, facing a loved one’s passing, or trying to decide which major to pursue.

Life is scary but we have a real God and a loving, interceding Jesus Who walk us through these things.

Thank you for letting me be so open about my life. I love this blog and the community of women we’ve grown to be. I love that I can share my fears of being a first time mommy who is spotting while being crazy in love with Baby Duncan and privileged to be almost 7 weeks in.

It’s a glorious time that we’re eating up — and I’m over-the-moon excited for our first appointment this week to see what all this spotting is about (and hopefully hear baby’s heartbeat).

p.s. the spotting has gotten much better which is also something I’m over-the-moon about.

And while I wait, I want learn to be okay with the unknowns and enjoy fully the gift God has given me.

Because we’re not given a spirit of fear but of power, love, and a sound mind.

With love, blessings and coffee,

Frannie

Pregnancy Update 6/26/16: In case you’ve missed out here is the post of when I was told I had miscarried Baby Duncan at 8 weeks and the post where we discovered the miscarriage was misdiagnosed at 9 weeks. Now, at 12 weeks, we’re waiting on the Lord while we pray for my subchorionic hematoma to heal and all the joy and fear that comes with that.

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12 thoughts on “
Dealing with Fear in Your First Trimester of Pregnancy

  1. I know how it feels to be drowning in that paralyzing fear while pregnant, and I am SO proud of you for turning to the Lord!! You’re right, God hasn’t given us a spirit of fear and if we turn to Him in those darkest moments fear has no power over us.
    Psalm 94:18-19 “When I said “My foot is slipping,” your unfailing love, Lord, supported me. When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought me joy.” My heart is with you through this beautiful journey you’re on my friend! 💖😊

    1. Amy, I love this verse! I’m going to write it out somewhere I’ll be able to see it often. Thank you for the sweet encouragement! It is just perfect for me!

      So thankful for your love and friendship! (And have fun at your “October Baby” viewing!) 😀

  2. I’m a little bit late to the congratulations party, but CONGRATULATIONS! I am so happy for you 🙂 I’ll be praying that your pregnancy runs smoothly and your heart is completely emptied of fear!

  3. That fear is a vulnerable, tender place that lets God in like easy times never can. I am asking Him to protect your baby and give you His best gifts of His love and presence.

  4. Ran across you blog thank you so much I’m crying rite now :-p but I’m in my first trimester and so scared worried cause I’m cramping often .. Ive had two miscarriages before this I just want everything to run smooth this time . Thank you for your words of encouragement and Bible verses

    1. Hello and welcome Sophia.

      And thank you for sharing your story and heart with me. I can so relate to the fear and worry that you’re going through. We were given news that we had miscarried and then, amazingly two weeks later, told the diagnosis was wrong and baby was well and growing. I had blood pocket which low, still has risk for the pregnancy. Now, at 11 weeks along, I am still learning to have trust and faith during my first trimester — I bleed occasionally and spot almost every day and it is so easy to give into fear. I so understand how paralyzing and awful a fearful trimester can be.

      Currently, due to a recent bleed, I’m on pelvic rest with no stimulation (sorry for information overload) as well as light rest orders until the blood pocket reabsorbs into my body or empties out.

      I’m so sorry for your last two losses — I wish there were ways I could come and give you a big hug and make everything alright.

      While you walk through this time I will be praying for you — that God would fill your heart with grace, peace and rest in Him no matter what the outcome. Please feel free to keep in touch if ever you are needing someone to visit with. And please keep me updated (if you like) on how your pregnancy goes.

      Also, if I may add, I have a dear friend who has had multiple miscarriages due to a folic acid disorder (also called MTHFR, I believe). I by no means want to offer unwanted words or add burdens but this may be something to look into if you would like. For her it has been a long road of recovery but the physical healing of simply taking a different form of folate/folic has helped tremendously. I only wanted to add this because I believe many women may struggle with this and not know as it is often missed in blood tests. I hope this doesn’t seem too insensitive to send.

      Blessings and love to you,
      Frannie

  5. I ran across this at just the right time. I am currently 5 weeks and my Dr. Has told me the pregnancy might not take. I’ve been wanting to be pregnant and have a baby for a very long time now and this is my first. And I’ve been having some spotting as well, I guess you could call it spotting anyway. I just keep telling myself at least I’m not feeling any kind of pain or crazy cramps or anything really there’s really just nothing but spotting going on. So really I just try to keep staying positive and praying and just trying to think Good things.

    1. Hello and welcome, Rosalee.

      Thank you for leaving me a comment and your story — I love hearing from other women and discovering that we can relate and encourage each other.

      I am both exited for your pregnancy and full of sadness for your spotting — I know how much fear that can create! I am currently 11 weeks and spot almost every day with an occasional bleed and it can be hard for me to be at rest and peace.

      We were mistakenly told that we had had a miscarriage, then after two weeks, we were blessed and surprised by discovering that baby was well and growing! So, sweet friend, know that sometimes the doctors are accidentally wrong. Not always of course, but there are beautiful exceptions.

      For me, the doctor discovered that I have a subchorionic hematoma (blood pocket) which is why I bleed and spot. Though low, there is still some risk of complications or miscarriage. So, perhaps that is something you may want to have your doctor look for.

      I would love to hear how you and your sweet baby are doing (if you’d like) so please keep in touch. I will be praying for you that you will be blessed with a hope, rest and peace in the Lord no matter how your story goes.

      Blessings and love to you!
      Frannie

  6. Hello I have just come across this blog and the feeling an emotions you are all describing are exactly how I’m feeling at the moment , after being told I may never conceive naturally I am 7 and a half weeks pregnant and this is a mirical , I turn away from the Lord after constantly having everything go wrong on my life and then this mirical when all felt lost , tomorrow will be the first day in a long time iv been to church on a Sunday , feeling nervous and scared about what lies ahead and we have a scan booked for next Saturday , I pray every night for my little bean as we call it , pray that it actually there and it’s heart is beating strong, but in the back of my mind I think something is bound to go wrong as its me and I’m never far from a fail 🙁

    1. Hello, Sophie, and a big hug to you my friend. Ah, I can almost feel your fear and pain as I know what it is like to fear for your baby. Please know that you and your “Little Bean” will be in my prayers — God has a good plan for your life and whatever comes He will walk you through.

      I’m excited about your returning to church after being away so long; I know that can be a scary and nervous thing. I pray you will find yourself encouraged and reminded about how much God loves you and that you would be reminded why He made you and that He has good plans for your life.

      I would love to hear how your pregnancy progresses. I will be praying for your upcoming scan. I now how nerve-wracking those can be. During my first trimester I was told I had had a miscarriage and waited two weeks to lose baby. God was so kind and good to us and we later discovered the diagnoses was wrong. But ever since I struggle with fear when I have an ultrasound — I’m sure that may be how you feel with being told you may struggle to conceive.

      Please, if you’d like, let’s keep in touch.

      Blessings to you,
      Frannie

  7. I am pregnant with my first baby after years of prayer and longing for this little one. I have so much fear for this pregnancy due to the path being largely unknown and having not been able to see the baby yet. Four weeks and four days into our miracle being knit together in my womb in full sight of God, the creator of the universe and ultimate doctor and healer. I know I must release fear to be filled with the courage that He will give to me. I am so sorry for your loss and cannot imagine how much of a rollercoaster you have been on, I pray for peace for you and your husband as well as your whole family. Your wise and lovely words have touched my heart and I thank you so much for sharing.

    1. Hello and welcome, sweet Emily.

      I am so glad you left a comment letting me know you were here. I am so happy for you as you experience every day of pregnancy! But I also know and understand the great fear that can come at such a happy time. I am blessed by your sweet attitude and you desire for total surrender and peace from our Father God.

      I will be praying especially for you and your little one, that God’s will be done and that His beautiful, loving presence and peace be seen and felt in your heart and life. I will also be praying for your little one’s protection — babies are such gifts!

      We have had an amazing journey with our Uriah. He was just born this November after a misdiagnosed miscarriage, months of spotting and bleeding, premature rupture of membranes, and a slight placental tear. Now, our beautiful son is working hard in the NICU. He was 3 weeks this Monday! He is such a blessing and joy and we thank God for working so much beauty and health in his life.

      But I SO understand the fear that comes with unknowns. So, anyway, I just want you to know that I understand and am hear if you need a listening ear or friendly words. From one Momma to another! 🙂

      Blessings, Emily!

      -Frannie

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