Summer with a purpose: Week Nine!

Greetings dear sisters in Christ! I hope you all are well and had a lovely day!
Another week of summer has passed on and I’m left to ponder how well I used it. I did not have a very productive week at home this week, but I did get a few things done.

Reading: This week I’ve been trying to work away at Are You Serious About Marriage? by Susan Zakula. This book is filled with godly wisdom and I have really enjoyed it so far. One particular section spoke greatly to me. It reads,
“Similarly, young women who have been in the working world have a difficult time changing their focus. They may make a great effort at finishing the ‘housework’ so they can go on to the more seemingly important things in life. They do not realize that making a happy home and meeting their husbands’ needs are the important things in life. As a woman grows in the Lord, she begins to realize that what her husband thinks is important IS important.”
 p. 26,27
I know that I have often struggled with the “I must get the cleaning done so I can do things important to me” mind set. I’m reminded of a saying which says “If a things worth doing, its worth doing well.” Ah, how true this is! How many times have I hastily dusted the furniture, skipped over changing my sheets, and put off the laundry? Too many times. I believe that part of training to be a godly woman and helpmeet is to diligently apply myself to these important things! I am so thankful the Lord has opened my eyes just a little to this important lesson and I hope I learn it well!
Anyways, it is my great hope to finish this book this week!
Cleaning: I was able to tidy up my room and go through a few of my decorations. This was such a blessing because my dresser was starting to collect more junk than pretties. I’m very excited because it is now orderly! :o)

Special Things: This past week I was very blessed to start working full time at a nearby day-care. God was so faithful and timely in giving me this job and I am learning so much! One thing God has been teaching me is to love little children. To many people this comes very natural, but I struggle with impatience and the unkind thought “If these were my children.” 🙁  I confessed these feelings to Momma and she gave me some lovely advice: Talk to Jesus about it. Jesus already knows my struggles and faults and He can help me. And you know what? I prayed about it, and I felt a love and patience the very next day! God is so faithful! I know this all may sound silly, but patience and gentleness is something I need to learn. I feel like this job is God’s way of trying to teach me! While learning this lesson I was reminded of Titus 2:4 which reads,
“That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,”
I had never given that part of the verse much thought. To love their children? That seems so easy, but is it really? Is it really easy to truly love anyone who is disobedient and sometimes selfish? For me it isn’t. But as Jesus loves me, though I am often disobedient and selfish, so I need to love others. And what does it mean to “love their children?” I feel like I have much to learn from this verse and am very excited!
One extra special thing is that I was able to go on a float trip with my family today. I was very blessed to be given the day off and truly enjoyed God’s beautiful creation and my family’s company!
Well, that is about it for my week.  I hope you all were able to be more productive than I. God bless your night, dear sisters, and let us continue pressing on towards Christ!
With love,
Picture Credit: This lovely painting was created by Helen Allingham.

Of Restless Hearts and God’s Will

Whah! {that’s the only sound my aching heart seems to be screaming}. I think I’m about to tackle a difficult topic, and it is being brought on my my own struggling heart, but I must share. I know most of you dear readers are young ladies; young ladies with dreams and hopes of one day being married. As I write this I’m smiling a bright but shy smile, for my heart loves and hates to discuss my hopes of marriage with others.

 I’m twenty years old, but I feel like the bloom of romance which had swept away many of my childhood friends never came. . .until now that is. And along with this intence desire to be loved comes an intence desire of discontentment. Yes, that horrible struggle of self fighting against the good will of my Father. Sin.

God designed me; every freckle, strand of hair, my very veins He lovingly and wisely put together. He knows me and is personally aquainted with my past, present, and future. He has watched over me from my sweet childhood years to this glorious, yet difficult time of being His growing little woman. As I look over my short life I see His loving and perfect hand in everything. From my dear parents and my raising, to my awarness of sin, to my first heart break, all the way to a terrible church split I see how His hand has guided me, using different things to bring me closer to Him. With confidence I can look over almost every time in my life and see how God has used it; I can say that He is wise, all-knowing, and perfect in His ways with me. Now, can I say that about my singleness? Can I in contentment trust Him and give up my hopes and day dreams knowing that He, as He has been all my life, is in control? Can I lay my will for a family and husband down and pick up His? In my head I know that God’s will is perfect and is for my good, but in my heart and will I resist, afraid that He has plans for me that I may not like. Oh, that I may learn to simply trust and obey, to trust that whatever He has in store for me, marriage or singlehood, Mrs. or Miss, is all for my good and for the glory of His kingdom? I trust I am not the only one struggling with this.

Here are some droplets of advice which have blessed me:

1. Singlehood is a wonderful opportunity to wholeheartedly serve my heavenly Father and Husband, Jesus Christ. 
“The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit:” 1 Cor. 7:34a    

We must remember that to give up our life for God’s glory is the highest calling. Never, think of maidhood as something horrible. It has many blessings. Remember also, the unmarried missionary legends who accomplished so much for God; at this moment I can think of Gladys Alward and  Amy Carmichal, to very admirable women.

2. Remember that God hates covetousness and that my “eyeing” other young men is just that. {We must remember that that young man may be someone’s future husband, or he may be set aside for singlehood by His heavenly Father. In either case, he is not mine}. 

3. When I begin to be carried away with day dreams, remember that my time is not mine. “See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil.” Eph. 5:15,16.

Also, when catching yourself day dreaming remember Phillippians 4:8,9 which reads,
“Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.”
Are my thoughts pure, true {did that or will that really happen?}, and of good report {would I allow others to see what I’m thinking?}.

5. Give your heart to your parents, specifically your daddy. Make yourself vulnerable to your dad; cultivating a relationship with him may seem strange and difficult, but the blessings far out weigh the trouble! Take responsibilty for yourself and work on the relationship. Ask your daddy what makes a good wife, ask him to help you grow in godly character. Ask him for his guidance and wisdom concerning boys. Ya know, he knows them best! 🙂   
Share your heart with your momma; tell her your hopes and dreams and ask her if you can be accountable to her. I can guarentee you will be blessed!

6. Finally, remember that Jesus loves me, knows what I need best, and that His timing is perfect.  
 “Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Prov. 3:5,6.

Ah, dear sisters, isn’t it good to rest in our Heavenly Father? I struggle so often with it, but I know that He is good and in control! Let us grow in trusting Him, giving up our dreams for His! To end, here a two very good quotes by Jim Elliot:

“God always gives His best to those who leave the choice with him.”
“He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.”
With love from your fellow pilgrim,
This lovely painting was taken from:

Happy Mother’s Day Momma!

“Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.” Prov 31:31
Happy birthday and Mother’s Day, dearest Mamma! I know we all love our mothers, but just as the Bible says, ” Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her” (Prov 31:28) so I am excitedly rising up to bless my dear Momma. I am so thankful to have her as a teacher of school, womanhood, and housekeeping. I am blessed to have her as my confidant and best friend. I am glad to have her as my example of a mother and wife. If you cannot tell. . .I love her totally and dearly.
Such a fun and sweet mother!
Momma earnestly and excitedly using the saw while helping Daddy fix their bedroom’s floor.
How sweet!
Isn’t she lovely?
Momma, thank you for listening to my hopes and secrets, my confessions and upsets. Thank you for teaching me lessons I should have learned long ago and for laughing at and with me. 🙂 Thank you for being a sweet and submissive wife-an excellent example. And for being a faithful and good mother. I hope to be a blessing to you in your future and to bring you lots of joy and smiles. I LOVE YOU and praise the Lord for giving me to you and Daddy!

“Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.” Prov. 31:29

With lots of love,