Why Introverts in Love are the Best Thing Ever

I can’t express the sweet quirkiness two introverts in love bring to the universe.

I mean, we introverts are already pretty cool.

But when introverted personalities choose to let someone into their personal, intimate lives, for better or for worse, I’m pretty sure the coolness multiplies past counting.


  • Introverts in love have homes they never want to leave because they’ve created havens of rest and refuge

Introverts need places of safety, places they can use to escape the loudness and pressure of the seeing world and be themselves. So, their homes are most likely their places of refuge. No two introverts’ space looks the same but the same quality they share is that their spaces are unique and reflecting the quirkiness deep within.

If you’re invited to the home of two introverts be prepared for something beautifully unique. It may be messy, eclectic, colorful or shabby but above all it will be a place of safe refuge full of personality.

  • Introverts in love are totally okay not going to the party …
It’s quite possible they’ll stay at home and enjoy each others company. If they’re like us they’ll play things like Minecraft, Scrabble and Star Trek episodes. If he’s a reader and she’s the artist they’ll have no problem quietly working on their individual interests, enjoying each other’s company and the knowledge that their better half is only a hallway away.
  • … But when they do they’ll bring a lot of uniqueness with them

When the darling couple do decide to face the world they’ll do it together and bring a lot of awesome uniqueness to the crowd. Next time you’re lucky enough to have an introverted, in-love couple in your home take the time to notice what they bring to the table. You may notice a lot of eye contact and inside jokes; they’ll share a bond and intimacy not many are allowed to participate in.

And, lest we forget, both will have their own set of unique quirks and humor which are bound to bring flavor to the party.

  • Introverts in love have no problem spending hours introverting together
 My introvert and I not only share a similar personality but our major love language, quality time, is also a commonality we share. And I love it! We literally do everything together and rarely get tired of each other.
  • But they also need an occasional “alone” day

So they may send the other off with coffee shop money and goodwill! 🙂

We’re both on vacation right now which  means a lot of great quality time; it also means very little alone time (something every introvert needs once in a while! 😉 ). So, D sent me off to do some of my favorite things today: go for coffee, stop by the library and visit my favorite shops on my own. He took the time to do what he does: play a video game, drink tea and simply be.

And as much as we enjoy our individual hobbies and alone time coming home to my introvert after hours alone in a coffee shop is my favorite. Being greeted, kissed and happily welcomed by the one person I allow this close is one of the greatest moments in the world.

I’ve met many introverts happily married to an extroverted spouse; these happy folk give thanks for the wonderful spice brought their way. It’s so awesome when opposites balance and bless each other. But the individuality between my introverted personality (IFSJ) and my husband’s (INTJ) also gives great balance and unique perspective … and that’s why introverts in love are the best thing ever.

What do you think? Have you met a couple of introverts in love? Are you an introvert married to an extravert? How have your personalities impacted your marriage? I’d love to hear your story!

Love, blessings and coffee,


4 thoughts on “
Why Introverts in Love are the Best Thing Ever

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    That’s very interesting Frannie. I too believe that we all need time apart, however much we enjoy each other’s company. True love always wants the best for their partner.

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    I bet you two are just the most adorable couple ever!! Even just from your writing, I feel so warmly welcomed into your little refuge – by both of you! – and I can just see your two quiet little souls enjoying just being and existing side by side. God was so loving and good to bring you together!!

    ~ Vicki

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    I love this!! What a beautiful and wonderful glimpse into the life of two introverts in love! I can totally relate to much of what you say here- Stu is an introvert and I am an introverted extrovert so our home is our haven and we happily spend whole weekends cocooned in our own little world. 🙂 We would love to have you and Dalton over sometime- the awesome quirkiness between the four of us would definitely make for a fun get together! 🙂
    Hugs to you Frannie!

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    So this post just makes me smile so much!!! Robert is an ISTP and I am an ISFJ and we actually share our top love languages. Robert’s being physical touch and quality time and mine is quality time and then physical touch. But honestly the reasons you stated are why I absolutely love being married to my introvert.
    We often introvert together by reading books or working on a project. Sometimes we do those things with the other in the room.
    I am very thankful to be married to an introvert and love the differences God made in our personalities, we really do click well together!
    We take “alone” days and project time but my favorite phrase to hear him say is, “I’m really tired of people, but I want to spend time with you, because…well…you’re Emma and it’s just not the same.”

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